I’ve been realizing that living in a digital age ran by social media has correlated with a decline of independent thought. We consistently quote songs and excerpt literature that has either moved us or interpreted a feeling we couldn’t express ourselves. In turn, its perceived as justified only because its taken from a source that is either popular, or at least accessible, to the general public to be validated credible. Ralph Waldo Emerson, one of my favorite writers, said, “I hate quotations. Tell me what you know.” I’m not boycotting being inspired by others, but more so- Rather than fit our lives into someone else’s recycled perceptions – “Oh wow those words of (insert quote here) really represent me ,” Why not challenge ourselves to–be–the inspiration that represents ourselves? Can we connect with each other through our own creative, independent thought? I feel we all have ideas that are just as inspiring, moving, and -real- as that of anyone else, regardless of how many people hear it. You just have to take the step forward and let it be heard. So I’ve decided to start a collection of my own “isms,” the things I’ve come to learn, live, and stand by throughout the years.
#5. Let it be said first–there is no universal rule to fully understanding women. There’s a certain perspective held by women and their experiences which are specific solely to them, a man can never fully understand. Believing there is a characteristic–a key– shared by all women easily grasped is a path walked foolishly without a destination, as ignorance makes you miss out on something more valuable than your own agenda. You realize it’s not about “understanding all women,” but accepting “a woman” as an individual with a story behind them filled with their own passions and goals which make them unique. So it begins with listening… Setting aside your own needs, desires, beliefs and past experiences that form your perceptions of women to pass judgement. Followed by responding in empathy because you’ve found the worth in learning more. Then, through remembering, you piece together the complexity that makes up the individual persona of a woman you can’t help but be amazed by and respect.
Now this pertains to romance, friendship, and even your own mother. It’s not about interpreting women, it’s about interpreting yourself. The way you treat, communicate to, and perceive women exemplifies the type of man you actually are. Once you face that reality, you then ask yourself the question if that’s really the type of person you want to be.
(Note to Women: I think It pretty much works both ways? A respectful guy should care if you listen to the interesting things he has behind him too.)
(Note to Men: I apologize if this wasn’t enough. That’s really all I got.)
For the time being, until i can figure out a way to categorize and collect these “random isms,” they will be categorized under “What I know”